“No one looked on you with pity or had compassion enough to do any of these things for you. Rather, you were thrown out into the open field, for on the day you were born you were despised.” Ezekiel 16:5 NLT
That we might be ultimately unwanted is one of the deepest and most hurtful lies that the enemy can plant in our souls. When it succeeds in germinating, it is very tough to shift. If you have ever felt unwanted, as though the universe made a mistake letting you in, I am so very sorry for that hurt. Please know that you were created by love and in love and for love, whatever your earthly parenting or early life may have been like. God created you unique and proclaimed you good, and he does not lie. He also proclaimed you loved, time and time and time again. He sings over you with love and delights in you. He longs to mother you and nurture you. He even came down here to show his love for you abroad in the earth by living and dying for you. If not you then no-one, if everyone else, then you too.
The verse after the one above, talking of the Lord’s love for Jerusalem, says that he passed by and saw the unwanted girl child, saying, “Live!” and goes on to speak of the prodigious care he takes over us. He wants us, he sees us, he wants us to make it, to care for us, to help us be all we can be. It shows us too that the Lord sees and is against every abandonment and the heinous practice of exposure, which is far more likely to happen if one is born female. He sees and he cares.
Humans, and especially families, can make us feel unwanted, unloved, unneeded. This is deeply tough if we are abused or adopted for reasons we cannot fathom. Those taking care of us can tell us either outright or by subtle cruelties, that we were a mistake, an accident or a regret. But love knows better, and love is better.
“My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place, when I was woven together in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed body; all the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.” Psalm 139:15-16 NIV
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